writer – speaker – advocate

  • Home
  • About Melinda
  • Shop
  • Testimonials
  • Bookings
  • Contact

Melinda Tankard Reist


MTR in The Punch: women aren’t playthings, slaves and bitches

News of Note Add comments

 

the punch counterpunch

How convenient to caricature someone whose work you oppose by reducing them to a cartoon parody. Like I haven’t had enough Helen Lovejoy clichés to last a lifetime? Oh, and look, another media studies academic watching The Simpsons. Are we impressed yet?

decap headWhere Stephen Harrington sees “a graphic critique of post-feminist female sexuality”, I see Kanye West holding a woman’s decapitated head. Where those like Harrington see ambiguous, complicated narrative and linear narrative fantasy, I see semi-naked dead women swinging from ropes around their necks.

When I see Rick Ross in the ‘Behind the scenes’ You Tube clip tucking into a plate of raw meat before a spreadeagled dead woman on the table, I see the brutalization and degradation of female sexuality. I don’t think ‘Oh, check out that satire’.

King Kanye has produced a carnage of female corpses, brutality and eroticized violence: torture porn. I agree with Zerlina Maxwell who described it as ‘a rape scenario set to a soundtrack’.

And Ta-Nehisi Coates has asked, what if John Mayer decided to cut a video withkayne table woman dead black women strewn about?

But of course my readings are to be dismissed. Because Harrington is a MEDIA AUTHORITY and he knows best.

Harrington’s dismissal of media interpretations other than his own as invalid, wrong, or hysterical is to buy into a predictable stereotype designed to dismiss women and their readings of culture. Only those like himself can coolly and rationally respond to culture. The rest are to be condescendingly dismissed.

Telling women who read oppression and offense into cultural representations that “they are reading it wrong” is to delegitimize their cultural interactions and ignore their perspectives.

Sharon Haywood from Argentina and I started a petition sponsored by Collective Shout, Adios Barbie, the Coalition Against Trafficking Australia and CATWA International, and Media Watch (U.S) calling on Universal Music Group to withdraw the video. That petition is hosted on two well respect global sites for activists: Care2  and Change.org. So far 10,000 have signed.

We believe that the mainstreaming of videos like this increases desensitized and callous attitudes toward violence against women. Women are reduced to sex-doll like playthings. They are slaves and bitches who can service a man’s sexual needs, even when dead. Men are brutal and dominant, and have no empathy for women.

We hoped to challenge the view that women’s pain and suffering is perfect fodder for entertainment.

A New York teacher, Monica R, commenting on the Care2 petition site, wrote:

…I teach [in the ‘hood’] in a very rough zip code. This crap is the ONLY music these kids listen to, so it has everything to do with violence against women because it forms their opinions.

… I have to hear the high school boy say “b–ches are only good for three things, f—ing, cooking, and cleaning.” I have to hear the high school girls…explain how you know a boy really loves you if he hits you.

Rappers…promote the ideas that the measure of a man is how many b–ches he can f—, or how much violence he can do, and that women’s only value is what’s between their legs, and as a punching bag. And that harms women and men.

Those kids just don’t seem to understand that misogynist rap videos are just graphic critiques of post-feminist [read anti-feminist] culture.

While not specifically naming West, international recording artist Moby may as well have in this article from 2005. Moby asks why racism is seen as bad but misogyny seen as cool. To those creating music which glamourises misogyny he writes: “you have blood on your hands, and you should be deeply, deeply troubled at the culture that you’ve helped to create”.

Sex is a ‘source of negativity and fear’ for so many women and girls. Yes. But it’s not the fault of my colleagues and I. West’s video is one great big dog whistle to all the women and girls who’ve had to put up with abusive sexuality that their pain is just good fun and entertainment. And it’s a dog whistle to men who choose to be perpetrators as well.

I talk to a lot of girls every year. They tell meabout being dis-empowered by pornified imagery which conveys their power lies in their ability to pleasure men on demand. They say boys are acting in more sexually aggressive ways towards them. They share stories of coerced sex, unwanted hookups, pressure to provide oral sex at parties and to send naked images. These stories come from girls as young as 11 and 12.

Many are treated as masturbatory aids. Sex is something done to them, not about a mutually pleasurable experience. Akon perpetuates this in his latest hit “I just had sex” in which he thanks all the girls “for lettin’ us f**k you.”

The sexualisation of murdered women on CSI doesn’t make West’s video any better. Just because we haven’t listed every last example of media sexualisation of female destruction, doesn’t mean we don’t see it elsewhere. We just choose our battles, and we’ve identified West’s video as a significant watershed in the de-humanisation of women. 

Harrington can keep watching The Simpsons and I’ll keep working with my friends around the world to try to make things better for real women.

As published today in The Punch.

Share

February 16th, 2011  
Tags: Adios Barbie, Akon, Care2, Change.org, Coalition Against Trafficking in Women, collective shout, Helen Lovejoy, Kanye West, media studies, Media Watch, Moby, Monster, music, music video clips, objectification, Pornography, Rick Ross, sex, Sexualisation, sexuality, Stephen Harrington, The Punch, The Simpsons, violence against women, women

7 Responses to “MTR in The Punch: women aren’t playthings, slaves and bitches”

  1. Verina
    February 16th, 2011 at 7:07 pm

    You go girl!
    what an excellent, intelligent, well thoughtout, well researched rebuttal of what are basically indefensible positions.
    Well done!


  2. Jordan Rastrick
    February 16th, 2011 at 7:18 pm

    Nice response. And you can thank the Punch for at least gaining you another reader.

    Would you be comfortable with material like this being kept out of the hands of minors, but still permissible for adults to view (assuming for a moment a pragmatic mechanism existed that allows such a restriction to be easily put in place)?


  3. Katrina B-R
    February 16th, 2011 at 7:32 pm

    When we try to make the meaning of a visual narrative (ref. to “the visual representation of post-feminist female sexuality”) into such a layered construction meaning, what we’re really doing is academi-excuse-speak for “we want attention, and we just want to get our power back”. Is it all about power, and the mysogynising of women as an expression of power? Are we women REALLY that fearsome that we need to be all killed off, or visually narrated ambiguously and negatively? Is our society SO insecure?
    I guess there’s nothing new here – artists have been cutting up or pornifying women for hundreds of years, but it’s tragic that our society’s visual vocabulary is STILL so limited, and the image makers pass the buck on taking responsibility for perpetuating the limitations.
    In the images, the women are anonymous and depersonalised. Imagine naming the women portrayed, connecting them to people, telling their life stories, and identifying with them. Would it then be so easy for image makers to treat their mothers, sisters, daughters, friends in such a visually disrespectful way after that?


  4. Abbigail Barnes
    February 16th, 2011 at 7:44 pm

    I am 20 and an avid fan of todays music and the artistic view I see expressed in film clips. However Kanye’s video and song ‘Monster’ is not in any way art, it is not even cheap art. It is disgusting. I have shown many of my friends this clip both, female and male, and they all agree that not only is this clip wrong but in now way how we, as women, should be treated, portrayed or viewed. I have sworn that if this clip hits video hits I will not only never watch this show again but I will also fight with whatever letters and petitions needed to have it removed. I hope my son will never see this in his life. It is a disgrace to the music industry. Please keep with your uphill fight to save societies view of right and wrong. I hope one day I will be able to help you.

    I was a young Mum at Collaroy with D.A.L.E last year and I think you and what you are doing is incredible. I have just bought your book today and look forward to reading it. =)


  5. Tami
    February 16th, 2011 at 7:52 pm

    Jordan Rastrick: Assuming that such a mechanism were in place now – would you be okay with other forms of hate speech being widely available, so long as not to minors? Would you expect homosexual people to be okay with anti-gay propaganda being widely available, so long as not to minors? Would you expect people of colour to be okay with anti-black propaganda being widely available, so long as not to minors?

    Why on earth should women be okay with misogynistic propaganda being available widely – in every.single.public place that we inhabit, in fact – so long as it’s not available to minors?

    Would you like to live your life that way?

    Have you read anything about rape culture? This is a good starting point if not –
    http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2009/10/rape-culture-101.html


  6. Emily Sue
    February 16th, 2011 at 7:58 pm

    I am SO sick of the argument, “The thing you mentioned is bad but THIS thing is worse, therefore your thing isn’t bad after all.” That’s like saying a broken leg shouldn’t hurt because getting your leg ripped off by a bear is so much worse.

    Yes, there are hundreds of examples out there of violence (against men and women both), eroticised torture, misogyny, racism, sexism (again, against men and women). Actually probably thousands of examples. Does that mean we shouldn’t mention any just because we can’t mention them all?

    I’ve watched Kanye’s video. I don’t see it as satire. Add a bit more nudity and it could be a porn clip. I’m not saying this as an uptight wowser who assumes anything slightly ‘sexy’ is pornographic – I’m saying this as someone who had a porn addiction for over three years. (Yes, women struggle with porn too.) I know what porn looks like… it’s violent and it’s racist. Overwhelmingly, women in porn are white, and ‘interracial’ porn means a large, ‘monster-like’ black man brutalising a smaller, generally terrified looking white woman – reinforcing the century-old racist myth that black men are animals just itching to rape decent white women.

    Porn treats women as faceless, worthless, dehumanised objects. They are often bound and almost always silenced. Even when women in porn have ‘power’ (as a dominatrix) they are STILL treated as objects who exist to please men. Women in porn are dressed in slutty, fetishist, lace and leather garb while men wear shirts, trousers, jeans, normal clothing.

    Any of this sound familiar, Kanye?

    The video is demeaning, brutalising and degrading towards women. It’s not the only example. It probably won’t be the last example. There are other examples of men being brutalised – these offend me too. We won’t be able to protest every example we find. We’ll probably miss some. For every example we find, someone will be able to find another that’s worse, or one that is better. For every example we find, someone will come back and say we don’t understand the humour or the satire. They will tell us we’re silly to get upset about it. You know what? I really don’t care – because I WILL NOT be told what I may or may not find offensive.


  7. Jess
    February 16th, 2011 at 11:43 pm

    Melinda, I’m sorry that you are the target of such halfwitted justifications of misogynistic behavior. as I was reading, I teared up a little bit over the reality of the situation and how real it is when you get stories coming from that of an 11 or 12 year old girl.

    You’re a wonderful role model… I’m always so glad that I found this blog because it’s opened up my eyes as to what behavoirs and mental conditionings that I will not, should not and dont WANT to ever accept from any man or media outlet.

    You are a blessing.


    Testimonials

    • “Intelligent, passionate, brilliant, fearless… I could not recommend her more highly”

      Dr Michael Carr-Gregg
    • “You continue to reset my shock meter…”

      Steve Biddulph
    • “Melinda Tankard Reist’s presentation to Middle and Upper School students at Pymble Ladies’ College was absolutely brilliant!”

      Justine Hodgson – English Faculty, Pymble Ladies’ College
    • “Melinda Tankard Reist has had a transformational affect on our school.”

      Ms Stephanie McConnell, Principal – Turramurra High School

    Shop

    • In this DVD, Melinda takes us on a visual tour of popular culture. “Melinda’s presentation leaves audiences reeling. She delivers her message with a clarity and commonsense without peer.” – Steve Biddulph, author, Raising Boys, Raising Girls

    • Purchase Big Porn Inc, Getting Real, Faking It and the Ruby Who? book and DVD in one bundle for $100 and save 20% off the individual price.

    • Purchase Big Porn Inc, Getting Real and Faking It in one bundle for $70 and save 20% off the individual price.

    • Purchase Getting Real, Faking It and Ruby Who? DVD in one bundle for $60 and save 12% off the individual price.

    • Purchase the Ruby Who? DVD and book together for only $35 saving 10% off the individual price.

    • “This powerful and humane book is a breakthrough…Big Porn Inc shows us we are poisoning our own spirits.” – Steve Biddulph
      “A landmark publication” – Clive Hamilton

    • “Getting Real contains a treasure trove of information and should be mandatory reading for all workers with young people in health, education and welfare” – Dr Michael Carr-Gregg, Adolescent Psychologist

    • Do you read women’s lifestyle magazines? Have you thought about how magazines might affect you when you read them? Faking It reflects the body of academic research on magazines, mass media, and the sexual objectification of women.

    • Ruby Who? is the sweet and innocent story of a little girl’s adventure in re-discovering her identity. Ruby wishes for so many things and dreams of being like others. Will she end up forgetting how to just be herself?

    • Ruby Who? is the sweet and innocent story of a little girl’s adventure in re-discovering her identity. Ruby wishes for so many things and dreams of being like others. Will she end up forgetting how to just be herself?

    • Defiant Birth challenges widespread medical, and often social aversion to less than perfect pregnancies or genetically different babies. It also features women with disabilities who were discouraged from becoming pregnant at all.

    Upcoming Events

      19 Jun 13: Brindabella Christian College – parent event 7:00 pm, Lyneham ACT

      24 Jun 13: Hunter Valley Grammar – parent event 7:30 pm, Ashtonfield NSW

      24 Jun 13: Regional youth development officers network conference 9:00 pm, Pokolbin NSW

      26 Jun 13: Pembroke School – Parents event – Adelaide 7:00 pm, Kengsinton Park SA

      27 Jun 13: Sacred Heart College – Students – Adelaide 9:00 am,

      27 Jun 13: Mitcham Girls High School – Parents event 7:00 pm, Kingswood

      1 Jul 13: Sexualisation of children in the media – All Saints' College -WA 7:00 pm, Bull Creek WA

      4 Jul 13: 11th World Convention of the International Confederation of School Principals 11:00 am, Cairns QLD

    Recent posts

    • Real life stories that bring you to tears: Girlfriend June
    • Tax office admits it gave ‘unacceptable’ response to MTR complaint re sexist tweet
    • “You f—ing whore”: What happened when a young activist took on a US rapper
    • Collective Shout releases live footage of rap artist’s vicious tirade against young female activist
    • Abuse, rape threats, Tyler the Creator fans defend their idol
    • Tyler complaints “funny” says Palace Theatre

    Collective Shout: for a world free of sexploitation

    Archived Posts & Articles

    My Tweets

    Melinda TankardReist
    • RT @DrRobi_S: This is definitely worth attending: @MelTankardReist on the Sunshine Coast for 1 night only this… http://t.co/LLYhMT6xTi 04:21:05 AM June 11, 2013 from Twitter for iPhone ReplyRetweetFavorite
    • This is what women hating looks like. Young activist on receiving end of @fucktyler tirade http://t.co/3LkypfiYwY #vaw 09:55:48 PM June 10, 2013 from TweetDeck ReplyRetweetFavorite
    • How I exposed @fucktyler sexually degrading insults against me at Sydney gig: Tal Stone tells. MTR blog http://t.co/3LkypfiYwY #vaw 08:31:19 AM June 10, 2013 from TweetDeck ReplyRetweetFavorite
    @meltankardreist
Copyright © 2013 Melinda Tankard Reist MTR PTY PTD All Rights Reserved