A revenge porn website can be described as a platform for scorned lovers to post non-consensual nude photographs of their exes online, and get away with it. A more accurate description is that it is a hidey hole for spineless trolls who get a thrill out of actively exploiting the vulnerable.
The consequences of revenge porn have been catastrophic for the victims who, predictably, are mostly female. Women have been stalked, bullied, humiliated, isolated, lost their jobs, forced to relocate and change their surname. Some have even committed suicide. A group of women in the US have decided to file a class action lawsuit against one of the many revenge porn websites, Texxxan.com, and web hosting company GoDaddy. According to Jezebel, the suit “seeks to prosecute for invasion of privacy and mental anguish, claiming the site shared intimate photos of them submitted without their consent.”
It is almost unsurprising that misogynists have found yet another one-click-ego-fix to exact vengeance. However, if the act of revenge isn’t bad enough, the sites rake in profits from advertisers and demand money from women who ask to have their images removed. Hollie Toups, one of the 23 women who have signed onto the legal suit, has told BetaBeat that after discovering photos of herself online, she emailed the website’s owner to request they be taken down. Toups says, “They replied and said they would be happy to remove the pictures for me if I would enter my credit card information. I went from being depressed and embarrassed to being really pissed off.”
There is a deep-rooted inability to acknowledge that those posting these pictures need to be held accountable. It’s just too easy to blame the woman.
For example, one commentator states in regards to taking nude pictures, “If you do it, assume it will get out there. You are consenting by posing for the photo in the first place. That’s beyond obvious and it makes no difference if you’re posing in a bar, in a park or in a bedroom. That is the consent, period.”
Another says, “Don’t want to show your bits to the world? Keep your clothes on. It’s that simple.”
And: “Any woman stupid enough to allow anyone to take nude pics deserves to have them online. I dated a woman a while back who was the revenge type. I talked her into letting me take some pics of her in the nude. When I broke up with her and she went all crazy and would not leave me alone I had to post them on the internet to force her to leave me alone. It worked.”
This is the same twisted logic that claims a woman wearing a low-cut top “has it coming.” It echoes the sentiment that if a woman is intoxicated or goes home with a man – or heaven forbid, both – she “deserves it” or is “a prick tease.” XOjane.com writer S. E. Smith says:
In the case of private material turned public, the issue should be…cut-and-dried; someone sent data with the expectation that it would be private. And when that information is made public for purposes of humiliation, shaming, or anything else, we should be able to agree that’s not okay. Yet, a lot of people want to blame the people who send the data in the first place, arguing that they should be more careful. Because clearly the responsibility here should lie with people who think they are in a trusting relationship, not with their partners or friends. I don’t buy this argument. It falls in line with all the other things women are told to do in order to prevent assault, abuse and harassment, putting the responsibility on victims rather than the perpetrators of crimes and abuses. As long as the focus is on telling women how to ‘avoid’ becoming victims, rather than on telling people how to avoid abusing women, this is going to be a losing battle.
How have they not been shut down yet? Surely there exists a law to protect people from having their intimate photos posted online? Apparently not. It goes without saying that the victim-blaming attitude expressed above is not helping the cause. But the few women who have braved the legal system have encountered barrier after barrier:
- After reporting it to police, women are frequently told it is “on the internet and therefore out of their jurisdiction.”
- The legal fees can add up to hundreds of thousands of dollars which most cannot afford. One woman whose ex-partner uploaded photographs of the two having sex told Nerve.com, “It would cost me no less than $10,000 just to have the search result moved to page three of Google.” Not even removed; just shifted a few pages.
- Victims have been told that since they were 18 when the photographs were taken, it is “technically legal.” They are also informed that because the images have been sent to someone else, they are “technically” the property of the person in possession of them.
- According to Jezebel, site owners claim they are protected by Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act, “which states that websites are not liable for content submitted by users, [meaning] they feel free to continue to publish photos even after the women themselves ask for removal.”
- Many revenge porn victims are forced into remaining anonymous due to cyber bullying, humiliation and the possibility of exes posting even more pictures online. This makes it harder for victims to sue.
The lawsuit shows change is brewing. Another victim (who has chosen to remain anonymous) has started an online petition to make revenge porn illegal. The same woman has also created a website for victims, Women Against Revenge Porn, an information hub for those affected to share their experience and seek justice. As well, lawyers are coming forward to offer their services to revenge porn victims – for free.
Lawyer for Toups, John S. Morgan, intends to not only sue the revenge porn site and host GoDaddy, but every single one of Texxxan.com’s paid subscription members. Morgan told the Houston Chronicle, “I’m going after the revenge porn industry. Those sickos who post private information of women without their knowledge. The only way to destroy this industry is to go after the people who fund it.” In a later interview he says, “The reality of it is at some level this issue of revenge porn has to become a public discussion and a legislative discussion and it raises issues of corporate responsibility.”
Revenge porn is a gross invasion of privacy, a breach of trust, and profits from the anguish and humiliation of others. It’s time these cowards were held accountable.
After writing the multi-million best-selling Raising Boys in 2003, psychologist Steve Biddulph thought his life work was done.
But the parenting guru and father of two kept hearing sad stories of friend’s daughters and coming into contact with parents in despair about how unhappy their girls were. They were plagued by eating disorders, self-harm, and depression.
“When I was writing on boys, girls were doing fine,” says Biddulph. “Then about five years ago that started to change. We began noticing a sudden and marked plunge in girls’ mental health.
“The average girl, every girl, was stressed and depressed in a way we hadn’t seen before. Nearly one in five has a serious mental health issue during her growing up years. You can’t ignore that”.
So he didn’t, writing a guidebook - Raising Girls: From babyhood to womanhood – helping your daughter to grow up wise, warm and strong (Finch Publishing) – which shot to no.2 on UK Amazon’s charts this week (until it was knocked off by a diet book recommended by Posh Spice).
Biddulph argues that girls have to be proactively launched into healthy womanhood.
“We haven’t loved girls well enough, understood them deeply enough, or stood alongside them to face the hyenas of this world that wanted to tear them down,” he says.
Biddulph gives parents a map for how to build strength and connectedness through the five stages of girlhood: being secure, learning to explore, relating to other people, finding your soul, and taking charge of your life.
What surprised him most in the writing of the book, he tells me, was the way the world comes at them.
“It reminds me of those images of the tsunami, all that junk surging into the streets and houses. That’s what our media is like now – flooding junk into children’s heads – that your looks are all that matter, that sex is just something you trade, that you can’t be loved for yourself,” he says.
“Girls are affected by that. Everyone has heard their daughter saying ‘I hate my body, ‘I hate my life’.
“Girls weren’t born hating their own bodies. They weren’t born hating life. Something was happening in the culture that was poisoning girls’ spirits”.
Biddulph says girls have lost four years of childhood peace and development, forced out of childhood before they’ve completed or fully enjoyed it.
He identifies four prime harms to girls – sexualisation, body image, alcohol abuse, and bullying.
“Being evaluated in terms of how you look, how you please others, how you are seen as a ‘product’ has taken girls back fifty years,” Biddulph says.
“Girls are in enormous pain and confusion. They are filling up the mental health clinics, the police stations and emergency rooms, the alcohol and drug treatment programs in numbers never seen before.
“Girlhood dramas should be dramas of learning and growing, not being battered and damaged”.
I ask him what he thinks is the best thing parents can do to help raise strong, resilient daughters (I have a vested interest in the answer, with three daughters of my own).
“Once you have a clear idea of the stages, it’s all about giving it the time, he says.
“Hurry is the enemy of love, because we start to not connect and our kids feel unimportant. That feeling is very common. We need to recognise parenthood is another full time activity.
“Not just to manage our children, but to actually talk them through their life’s struggles, and actively teach and encourage them. If your daughter is close to you, she will know how to be close to others.”
Girls need to be nourished physically, spiritually and emotionally, to help build resilience and be able to navigate their way through a tough world.
Biddulph says: “A girl who knows her own soul may be a gentle girl but with an iron in her that is not easily manipulated by careless boys or false friends. She will be loyal, tough, and protective of those around her. And of herself.”
Regulatory bodies have failed to help parents raise happy kids. “We need to stop marketing aimed at kids. We need to control the alcohol, junk food, fashion, and porn industries so that they don’t target children. It’s unethical,” he says.
“It’s time to stop the trashing of girlhood, equip parents to deal with the modern world and get the media off the backs of our daughters.”
Despite the extent of the problem, Biddulph remains a man of hope. He is encouraged by the growing worldwide movement to free our girls.
“There’s a great movement rising up all over the world to improve things for girls. People everywhere are waking up to the exploitation of our girls and taking action to address it.”
I am affected today by the final paragraph in this piece by former UK Prime Minister now UN Special Envoy for Global Education Gordon Brown. It echoes, I think, the mood of myself and my colleagues in Collective Shout: for a world free of sexploitation. The time for politeness is over. We are tired of Zoo magazine (read by 28,000 14-19 year old boys each week) cutting women in half and asking men to comment on which dismembered half they prefer and calling it ‘Men’s Lifestyle’. (See here and here). We are tired of companies like Condom Kingdom being allowed to sell Lolita virgin vibrating sex rings (promoted as just like having sex with a young virgin every time), with government departments and so-called regulators passing the buck (“not our responsibility” is a common refrain). We’re fed up with illegal porn in corner stores and milkbars promoting sex with little girls, rape and incest. And countless other women and girl-hating cultural expressions.
Why is it that we have a Royal Commission into responses to child sexual abuse (rightly so) but no inquiry into the permission-giving drivers which encourage and enable men to abuse women and girls? As Jayneen Saunders, author of Some Secrets Should Never be Kept wrote in a blog comment last night: “I continually despair. Here so many of us are fighting tirelessly for sexual abuse prevention education and reducing the statistics of 1 in 4 girls being sexually abused before 18, and business such as this are allowed to sell , market and encourage fantasies of the sexual abuse of young girls. Where is government regulation when you need it!”
There’s a Federal election this year. Don’t expect us to be demure. Those in high places who are supposed to protect the interests of women and girls have failed. Over and over again. There’s little political will to do anything of substance to call advertisers, marketers, Lads Mags, pornographers and other sexploiters to account. But there is a tide of rising anger and we’re going to harness it. Watch this space. Here’s the Brown quote:
I see in recent protests a real shift. Demonstrations that started as cautious, often gentle, admonitions to the powers that be, with respectful requests for change, have now come to encompass a set of defiant, non-negotiable demands in the form of ultimatums — and rightly so. Protests that once were pleas to ‘please stop this’ have become protests that insist ‘no more and never again’.
What is sexual objectification? Is it empowering? Watch and learn.
Chair of the politics department of Occidential College in Los Angeles, Dr. Heldman appeared in the acclaimed documentary, Miss Representation, and is co-editor of “Madame President: Are We Ready for a Woman in the White House?” She is a frequent commentator on radio and television and a regular contributor to Ms. Magazine.
*Trigger Warning* This article will be distressing for some.
It was recently brought to our attention that Condom Kingdom, an online sex shop and business based on the Gold Coast, is selling ‘male masturbators’ for men to fantasise about sex with underage girls. The “Lolita Vibrating Teenage Vagina” is advertised in this way on Condom Kingdom’s website:
Lolita the Stanley Kubrick’s 1962 movie classic starring Peter Sellers, James Mason and the unbelievably provocative Sue Lyon, aged 14 at the time of making the movie – attracted huge controversy and censorship problems.
Great movie and no wonder they lifted the name to put on this Vibrating Vagina. They even call it a “teenager vagina”. How can something inanimate be labelled a teenager? Still we have sold a lot of them!
This is one of the original types of masturbators on the market, affordable and a popular male vibrator. Made of soft, jelly material, and with the hymen still intact, it will feel like your having sex with a virgin everytime you use it. (sic) (bold ours)
References to “virgin”, “hymen”, “Lolita” and the “unbelievably provocative Sue Lyon aged 14…” eroticises sex with children and therefore, paedophilia. The term “Lolita” references a film about a man pursuing sex with an underage girl (child abuse) and the term is now commonly understood to be referring to a prepubescent or adolescent girl.
The image on the front cover of the product packaging is designed to look like an underage girl. The accompanying text “Vibrating Lolita teenage vagina” and “always like the first time” confirms this.
In addition to the “Lolita” product, a similar product called the “Teenage Dream” is sold through the site; advertised in this way:
This supersoft teenage vagina makes all your wet dreams come true. She is waiting for you to deflower her.
Eroticising sex with teenage girls and promoting the idea that girls are “waiting” to be abused is a threat to the safety of girls and an endorsement of paedophilia. How is this legal? What can be done?
Making a complaint has been remarkably difficult. While looking into this issue, a number of options were suggested to us by government departments, including notifying the police. It seems every avenue we take, we are advised to contact someone else. We have contacted Fair Trading and submitted a complaint on their website. We are advised that we will receive a response within 10 days. We’ll keep you informed.
More misogyny from Zoo as Ad Standards Board ruling ignored
We’ve helped bring down Zoo weekly’s ‘hottest asylum seeker’ competition, made complaints to the Ad Standards Board about its sexist ads on Facebook and called on Coles and Woolworths supermarkets to stop selling the sexist mag. But Zoo refuses to change, ignoring a recent ruling from the Ad Standards Board that posts on their Facebook page were demeaning and discriminated against women.
One of the ads we complained about was an image of two halves of a woman with the question “left or right but you have to tell us how you came to that decision.” What followed was a series of misogynistic comments from Zoo readers. We also lodged complaints about an image comparing a woman’s body to a game console. An image of a woman’s bottom wearing underpants that say ‘Nintendo’ was accompanied by the question “What would you call this console?”
A quick scan through Zoo’s Facebook page demonstrates that nothing has changed, in fact Zoo is only getting worse. An article on Mumbrella describes in detail the behaviour of Zoo Weekly and its fans on Facebook:
It’s important to point out that Zoo magazine is an ‘unrestricted’ publication. This means that despite the sexist, pornified content and the advertising directing readers to hardcore content (see link here caution when opening) the magazine does not have an age restriction. Zoo’s own stats indicate that 28,000 young people aged 14-17 read the magazine each month. The magazine is widely available in supermarkets and service stations. Ads within the magazine urge readers to ‘like’ their Facebook page where they are served up more sexist and demeaning content.
We again call on Woolworths and Coles to stop selling a magazine that persists in demeaning women, women who make up both their staff and at least half of their customer base.
Our finances were crippled, our mental health shattered
As I wrote in my Sunday Herald Sun piece on the weekend, we rarely hear from those who don’t end up with a baby at the end of the line. We mostly hear the success stories. So I thought it important to give this letter some prominence here. Nick Parissis wrote to me about the experience of himself and his wife Joann.
My name is Nick and my wife’s name is Joanna. I read your article today in The Sunday Herald Sun in relation to IVF and wanted to thank you for enlightening the wider community about the truths associated with IVF and adoption in Australia.
My wife and I are both in our early 40′s and have been married for 6 years. In 2008 our only child Connor was conceived through normal pregnancy however was born premature at 24 weeks for no explainable reason. Despite the amazing work undertaken by the staff at the Mercy hospital, Connor passed away after 15 days. Again doctors could not give us any explanation as to why Connor passed away. We were informed after his passing that when premature babies such as Connor get to the stage he was at, ie breathing predominantly on their own and requiring lower doses of medication approximately, only 1 in 500 don’t survive. Unfortunately for Connor and us, he was the 1.
Due to the emergency classical caesarean which my wife went through to deliver Connor, we had to wait approximately 1 year before we could try for another child. This time was used for grieving Connor. Jo managed to fall pregnant once again naturally about a year after we lost Connor however that pregnancy did not progress past the 10th or so week. We tried for about another year or so naturally but were unable to conceive.
We had all sorts of tests done and were given no definitive reason as to why Jo was not falling pregnant. So about 14 months after the miscarriage we decided to go down the IVF path. We did all the pre IVF screening and found it unfair and unnecessary that we even had to do criminal background checks despite both of us being serving members of Victoria Police. Through our employment we have both witnessed many people becoming new parents who we know are not in a position to adequately care for and raise a child in a suitable manner. We also met with IVF counsellors and went through all the information and began treatment.
We lost count of the amount of IVF cycles we went through over a period of approximately 18 months, and also the amount of times people would tell us that “this time it will happen, have faith etc”. Financially it almost crippled us (some $35000) was spent. If we had a baby to care for as a result every last dime would have been well spent. Every time we would go in for an egg transfer the doctor would tell us that the particular embryo looked good and that he was positive about that particular procedure. However all his positive spin resulted in nothing at the end of the day.
After approximately 18 months we gave up IVF due to monetary constraints but also due to the mental health of us both. In your article you mention about the women’s experiences in regards to their health. Jo went through all of what you mention, but I also went through similar feelings and have battled depression for the past year. My doctor and psychologist have put the depression down to a combination of Connor’s death, as well as the IVF. I can’t describe how hard it is to be on tender hooks after each embryo transfer wondering if it will work, and getting towards the date of the blood test to see if your wife is pregnant and being told it hasn’t worked. Several times Jo would get her period early on and we knew pretty early it hadn’t worked however there were times she made it to the day of the test and I would think it must have worked this time only to be shattered with the bad news. No matter how tough or resilient a man thinks he is, and being a police officer many people assume we can take anything, there is only so much negative news and disappointment a man can take. People often forget about the mental anguish men go through during IVF.
People have a misconceived idea that IVF is a lot more successful than what it actually is. Since giving up on IVF, well-meaning friends continually bring up the subject of adoption, however as you mentioned in your article, adoption in Australia is neither easy or as accessible as the majority of the population think it is. After spending some $35000 is very difficult to find another $50000 to facilitate an adoption. And despite all the positive spin and information IVF medical practitioners provide, it is important people know that IVF is no guarantee to a successful pregnancy. Whilst going through IVF you tell yourself not to get your hopes up but it is impossible not to. People must balance this hope with realistic expectations and friends of people going through IVF also need to reel in their expectations.
Thanks again for the insightful article and for your time.
I DON’T want to discuss the personal IVF journey of Tony Abbott’s staffer Peta Credlin. Others can examine the politics of the Opposition Leader’s foray into the issue this past week. But there is a new opportunity to talk about IVF. It is difficult to criticise a procedure seen as ‘‘life-giving’’, and tempting to overlook the human costs.
The Opposition Leader says he supports IVF because he is ‘‘pro family’’. But we need to face the reality that despite IVF industry publicity, with photos of smiling babies set to pastel, most couples undergoing the procedure will never see a live baby.
In 2010, there were 61,774 assisted reproductive technology (ART) treatment cycles performed in Australia and NZ. Of these, a mere 18.1 per cent resulted in a live baby.
There is a higher risk of miscarriage, terminations for foetal abnormality, stillbirth, a 2.5 times higher rate of death, a high risk of caesarean and pre-term birth, (33 per cent in IVF babies, 7.9 per cent in non-IVF babies) and low birth weight (26.4 per cent, 6.8 per cent in non-IVF babies).
IVF babies have more health problems. A large Ontario study found a 58 per cent greater risk of defects in IVF infants.
There’s an increased risk of heart defects (2.1 times), cleft lip/palate (2.4 times) and anorectal atresia (3.7 times). Gastrointestinal problems are nine times higher in IVF babies. A Switzerland study has found abnormalities in the blood vessels of 12-yearolds born through IVF.
There are ethical concerns about the thousands of stockpiled frozen embryos — about 40,000 in Victoria. Most are destroyed (20,000 discarded in Victoria in 10 years) and many are used in experiments. Then there is the cost. Medicare underwrote $217.4 million in costs from July 2011 to June 2012.
The cost of an IVF baby to women aged 30-33 years is $27,000, and for women 42-45 it is $131,000.
Egg extraction involves weeks of psychological and medical testing, followed by hormone injections. A long needle is used to pierce the wall of the vagina, access the ovaries and remove the eggs. The aim is to get as many eggs as possible. I know women who have had more than 20 eggs extracted.
Side-effects of the hormones include hot flushes, emotional turmoil, bloating, visual changes, ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome and multiple pregnancy. Ninety-two IVF cycles in 2010 resulted in one or more of the foetuses being aborted.
An estimated 10 per cent of women develop hyperstimulation syndrome, which can be fatal. There were 206 cases in 2010.
Researchers from the Netherlands have found that women having ovarian stimulation have a twice as high a risk of ovarian malignancies.
Given the lack of adequate safety data, how can women exercise informed consent?
Marketed as the only option, women are often put on the IVF treadmill before others are explored. I know women referred to IVF in their late 20s who, after abandoning the program, went on to have children naturally.
Of course many couples would adopt if it wasn’t so costly (up to $50,000 per child) and time-consuming. Australia has been accused of having an anti-adoption ethos, with the lowest adoption rate in the developing world.
In 2011-12, there were 333 adoptions in Australia (149 from overseas) — the lowest on record.
Yes, there is a strong desire for a baby. But research on women’s experiences of ART shows many feel physically, emotionally and financially drained, and suffer anxiety, depression and relationship problems.
Women have a right to realistic expectations about outcomes and risks. Some women say they were given hope but not enough information. We welcome every baby born but this huge global enterprise has not cured infertility.
While it may have brought joy to some women with the birth of a baby, it has come with significant physical and emotional suffering for many more.
The gang-rape of a 23-year-old student in a moving bus on the night of December 16 in the capital city of Delhi has triggered anger, outrage and shock amongst every citizen this country.
The National Crime Records Bureau records 572 rapes reported from Delhi for the year 2011. This year 635 rapes had already been reported as of December 15, 2012, Rape is not a problem that afflicts Delhi alone. In recent months, we have seen a rising crime graph against women being reported from virtually every corner of the country including Haryana, Kerala and Bangalore.
Each time a rape is reported, civil society reacts with anger and outrage, which unfortunately dies down and is forgotten, until the next time. The question to ask: what is the inflexion point? At what stage do we say collectively and in one voice: Enough.
Many solutions have been offered in the light of this particular gang-rape and in the past. Some of these include:
1. The setting up of fast track courts (as in Rajasthan recently) to ensure speedy trials.
2. The imposition of maximum, exemplary sentence.
3. The immediate clearing of all pending cases involving crimes against women.
4. Immediate training and sensitisation of police force to crimes against women, including domestic violence, molestation and sexual assault.
5. The immediate passage of pending bills that seek to protect women, including the Protection of Women Against Sexual Harassment at the Workplace Bill 2012 and the Criminal Law (Amendment) Bill 2012
6. Consultations with the Ministry of Human Resources to see how best to address the issue of sensitising boys through the school curriculum.
7. National-level, open consultations involving civil society and other stake-holders on how best to tackle the growing misogyny and hostility against women as well as rising crimes against them.
Despite having so many women in positions of political leadership, a survey by TrustLaw found India to be ranked as the worst country in the world for women. At a time when women are increasingly claiming their rightful share of half the sky and asserting their autonomy and independence, the rising crimes against them are conducted with absolute impunity by criminals who have no fear of the law.
We are writing to you in the hope that you will direct government and judiciary to take special note of the escalation of gender violence and work together on a priority basis to implement the measures detailed above.
Lack of gender justice, lack of fear of the law, police and judicial apathy, failure of governance and shrinking public spaces is a matter of grave concern, not just for women but for every citizen of this country.
Spectrum Daiquiri Bar in Brisbane has been the target of an online backlash for naming its cocktails “Winey Bitch” and “Red Headed Slut.”
Hundreds have posted comments on Spectrum’s Facebook page in response to a post asking for general feedback about the venue. Spectrum’s management responded to criticism saying that they will take it ‘into consideration.’
Posting on Collective Shout’s Facebook page, owner Amy Sutton had this to say:
“Spectrum has NEVER referred to ANYONE as a ‘bitch’ or a ‘slut’. These are names given to drinks – inanimate, genderless, drinks.”
So the “her” in “Shut her up” is a drink and not a person? The words “goes down” in inverted commas were not intended to carry a double meaning?
Ms. Sutton also said:
“….Do you think we will change for people who are rude and nasty to us? A lot of you have stated that you will not be drinking here anyway – regardless of the name change – not only this, but after (multiple times) explaining that you have been understood and we have taken your posts on board, and there was no need to continue to post the same thing – you continued to post negative things. Why not give us the chance?…”
The reason people kept posting comments in protest is because despite being given “the chance” to apologise and commit to making changes, they did no such thing. After defending the cocktail names on social media for two days they altered their web page to remove the product descriptions, “goes down” and “shut her up” but left the titles “Winey Bitch” and “Red Headed Slut” in place.
If Spectrum management are serious about taking a stand against sexism and misogyny, they would change the titles completely. Indeed there is nothing in the actions of the owners to indicate even a basic understanding of the issue, let alone a willingness to change. Spectrum co-owner Deryn Cox said today in the Courier Mail that they didn’t think the names were “particularly sexist.” Mr Cox also described those speaking out against the cocktails as ‘extremists.’
Writing on Collective Shout’s Facebook page, Mr Cox described our campaign against the cocktail names as a ‘bad joke.’ If the campaign is seen as a bad joke by anybody, we are assuming that it is seen this way by the same people who think “Red headed slut” and “Winey Bitch” are not ‘particularly sexist’ terms. It is alarming that some people cannot recognise sexism and misogyny when it is right in front of their face. However it is encouraging to see so many people speaking out against it. As Collective’s South Australian Coordinator Nicole Jameson said:
“Bravo, Spectrum. In a country where alcohol is a major factor in both domestic violence and sexual assault, you manage to combine them all in your drink names.”
That’s why Spectrum needs to change and we need to keep speaking out.
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Ruby Who? is the sweet and innocent story of a little girl’s adventure in re-discovering her identity. Ruby wishes for so many things and dreams of being like others. Will she end up forgetting how to just be herself?
Ruby Who? is the sweet and innocent story of a little girl’s adventure in re-discovering her identity. Ruby wishes for so many things and dreams of being like others. Will she end up forgetting how to just be herself?
Defiant Birth challenges widespread medical, and often social aversion to less than perfect pregnancies or genetically different babies. It also features women with disabilities who were discouraged from becoming pregnant at all.